Ever wondered how you may be perceived status-wise? Here’s a secret: the way in which others may perceive you could have a lot to do with how you write emails, texts, etc. and how you speak. Why should this matter? Listed are reasons how and how to avoid them whilst talking or texting.
1. Avoid “I” whenever possible.
Sure, there is a time and place for “I,” but using it in every single sentence isn’t necessary. The “I” word speaks inferiority to whomever you are talking to. It shows the person you’re speaking to has more power, even if they don’t.
Even when writing a narrative novel, the “I” should be used sparingly. When used sparingly, it creates novelty and a sort of special-ness.
2. Use Short declarative sentences
Whether you’re speaking to a friend or a stranger, getting your sentence right to the point shows confidence. Mean what you say. Don’t lengthen your sentences more than they need to be. More declarative the less bored your listener will be.
Because of the standards from society, women tend to speak softer and end their sentences with a higher intonation so it sounds as if it’s a question. This leads to many not being taken seriously. Regarding the higher intonation, women tend to make their sentences sound like a question because they need credibility from their male counterparts.
Having a soft spoken voice can also be a problem for many men. This makes it much harder later to grasp that powerful, very attractive voice.
What to do?
Both men and women must be conscious with how they speak and practice, practice, practice to get the right intonations at the right time. This will create a power in your voice that will help with both social and work life.